COLUMN: Spouse's Turn
The
Norwegian ambassador Arne Roy Walther talks about life with the former
journalist Anita Pratap
Photo: Anita Pratap and Arne Roy Walther at a site of the Kochi Muziris Biennale
By
Shevlin Sebastian
Every
morning, the then Norwegian ambassador to India, Arne Roy Walther, would get up
at his home in New Delhi, make a cup of coffee, and watch the television news.
One day, when he was seeing the CNN news channel, he saw Anita Pratap for the
first time. “I was impressed by her commentary and realised that she was a
special person,” says Arne. “From then on, I watched CNN instead of the BBC to
catch a glimpse of Anita.”
A few
months later, in 1996, the elite of Indian society, along with foreign
ambassadors, had gathered to watch and interact with the Miss World competitors
at an event in New Delhi (the beauty pageant was later held in Bangalore). “I
spotted
Anita in the crowd chatting with one of my diplomat colleagues,” says
Arne. “She was wearing an elegant sari, and looked far more beautiful than the
scantily-clad contestants half her age on the stage.”
Arne
sensed his opportunity and hurried across to say hallo to his friend. “He
introduced me to Anita and graciously left me alone with her,” says Arne. “I
cannot remember what we talked about, but I tried hard to make a good
impression.” After a long conversation, Arne invited Anita for a lunch date a
couple of days later and the journalist accepted.
At the
lunch, the discussion was intense and exhilarating. “I realised that we had the
same values and outlook on life, although Anita was born in Kottayam, and had
lived all her life in India, while I was born in New York, and had stayed in
several countries,” says Arne.
They
remained in touch even as Arne and Anita continued with their busy careers. But
Arne's hand was forced three years later, when he was transferred back to Oslo.
So he proposed to Anita.
He did it the day before she left to make
a documentary film in the North-East. Anita smiled, but did not give a reply.
But Arne was sure Anita knew about his feelings. “So my proposal could not have
come as a surprise to her,” he says.
A week
later, Anita returned and said, “Yes.”
Little
did they realise that there would be a few marriage ceremonies. The first
wedding took place on Guy Fawke’s Day on November 5, 1999, at the Norwegian
Embassy in Madrid. Thereafter, the couple went for a honeymoon in Southern
Spain. “We enjoyed the beautiful mountains, the scenic coast and the Islamic
heritage of the Moors in Seville,” says Arne.
The
second event took place at New Delhi in February, 2000. It was a civil marriage
on the lawns of the house of the then Union Law Minister, Ram Jethmalani.
Signing the papers, Jethmalani looked at Arne, and jokingly said, “Now, just
try getting out of this marriage!”
The third
marriage was hosted by senior professional Sunand Sharma and his wife Livleen
on the rooftop of their home in Delhi home on a full-moon night. “It was the
brightest moon in 133 years,” says Arne. “There were two elephants and 128
dancing gypsies greeting the 400 guests.”
The high
point for Arne was when Anita tied a thread around his wrist, while Livleen
forcefully pressed the palm of his hand to the flame of a candle. “It hurt a
lot,” says Arne. “But I endured the pain like a true Viking and proved to one
and all how prepared I was to marry Anita.” Ever since, Anita always ties a new
thread on Arne when the old one frays away. “As part of the ritual, I still
hold the palm of my hand above the flame of a candle, albeit now at a more
comfortable distance,” he says, with a smile.
When asked
the difference between Norwegian and Indian women, Arne says, “Norwegian women
are usually blonde
with blue eyes and spend
time skiing, while Indian women have black hair and dark eyes and enjoy eating spicy food. However, both are
excitingly enigmatic.”
Today
Arne is posted to Tokyo, where he is Norway's ambassador. Whenever Anita is in
Tokyo, every morning, after a cup of coffee, the couple go for a morning walk
in a nearby park. “We talk about what is going on in the world, and tease each
other at every opportunity,” says Arne. “Japan is an open, safe and secure
society. The culture is fascinating and the food is good. But I always enjoy
Anita’s 'meen mappas' and 'payasam'.”
And Arne
is also enjoying watching a constantly-evolving Anita. “She is getting younger
in spirit, while maturing in thought and outlook,” says Arne. “We both love to
travel and meet people.”
Meanwhile,
after 15 years of marriage, Arne has some valuable tips to pass on. “Always
talk and do things together,” he says. “Give each other space. Benefit from
differences in character. Be serious, but also enjoy life. And do not forget
the many less fortunate in society and do something for them. We are all one
big family in a global home.”
(The New Indian Express, Kochi, Thiruvananthapuram and Kozhikode)
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