COLUMN:
Spouse's Turn
Mercy
talks about life with the noted cartoonist CJ Yesudasan
Photo by Mithun Vinod
By
Shevlin Sebastian
Mercy
says that she saw CJ Yesudasan when she was two years old, while he
was four. Their mothers had brought the children at the same time to
the Mavelikara Government Hospital. “But I don't remember it at
all,” she says, with a laugh. “My mother told me this.”
Years
later, in February, 1966, there was a marriage proposal from the
Yesudasan family. By then, Mercy was in Mumbai working as a clerk in
the accounts section of the Railways. Yesudasan, on the other hand,
was a staff cartoonist for ‘Shankar's Weekly’.
He travelled from
New Delhi to Mumbai to see Mercy. But she did not know that it
was a meeting for a marriage. “My sister, Aleyamma, with whom I was
staying, said that Yesudasan was just coming on a visit,” says
Mercy.
She
had been aware of him because she regularly read Yesudasan’s
cartoon strip in ‘Shankar’s Weekly’. “I liked it,” says
Mercy. During that visit, Mercy remembers what Yesudasan wore: a pink
shirt and white trousers. Later, when her mother, a widow, and
brothers told her that Yesudasan came from a good family, she agreed
to the marriage.
It
took place on September 5 at the St. Stephen's Orthodox church
at Kattanam. Thereafter, the couple embarked to Delhi. They had
a small honeymoon phase, because, within two months, Mercy got
pregnant. Meanwhile, they were learning to adjust to each other.
One
evening, Yesudasan went to a party at cartoonist Shankar's house and
promised to come back home in time to have a bowl of drumstick soup.
But he came late. “I got angry and did not give him the soup,”
she says. “I also vowed that I would not serve soup for a year.”
Mercy kept her word. But Yesudasan remained serene.
“Calmness
is one of his strong points,” says Mercy. “He rarely loses his
cool. Even with our three sons -- Sanu, Sethu and Suku -- he has
always remained calm.”
Other
qualities include a high degree of cleanliness. “Yesudasan washes
his hands and face several times a day,” says Mercy. “He will
have a bath twice a day. When he returns from visits, he will
immediately change his clothes. I am also happy that he does not
drink or smoke and cares for the family.”
When
Sanu was three months old, he was afflicted with meningitis.
Consequently, he was rushed to the Safdarjung hospital. For two
weeks, injections had to be given at two-hour intervals. “I went
through a lot of tension at that time,” says Mercy. “But
Yesudasan was beside me throughout. I will never forget his support.”
And
Yesudasan will not forget home-maker Mercy’s support which allowed
him to concentrate on his career. “Cartooning is his passion,”
she says. “I don't have any problems that this is his priority. I
want him to continue doing it as much as possible, because it brings
joy and satisfaction to him.”
Interestingly,
every day when Mercy sees the cartoons, it is nearer to lunch-time,
when after finishing the cooking and other jobs, she relaxes by
reading the newspapers. “Sometimes I feel a pain when Yesudasan
makes fun of somebody,” says Mercy. “I ask him why he has to
attack people. He smiles and says, 'I don't think they mind it. It
is, after all, a cartoon.' When I see a good cartoon I feel happy and
tell him so. I am so proud of my husband. He has done a lot of good
work.”
Astonishingly,
Yesudasan is in his 59th year of cartooning. This is
thanks to a highly disciplined life. He gets up at 6 a.m. Then
Yesudasan, 76, reads the Bible. He does a bit of walking inside the
house. Then, from 7 a.m. to 9 a.m., he reads a mix of Malayalam and
English newspapers, about 14 of them.
After
his breakfast, he goes into an Ayurveda massage and oil bath.
Yesudasan enters his study at Changampuzha Nagar, Kochi, at 11.30
a.m. It is an ideal location for creativity: the loudest noise is the
twitter of birds.
Following
lunch, at 2 p.m., he will take a nap. At 3.30 p.m., Yesudasan will go
back to the office. And will work till 8 p.m. He sends his cartoons
by e-mail to a couple of Malayalam newspapers. It would seem like a
perfect life.
However,
Yesudasan's one drawback, as a person, is that he is unable to show
affection, especially to toddlers. “He was not physically
affectionate to our children when they were young, because, by
nature, he is an introvert,” says Mercy. “But Yesudasan has love
in his heart and gave them whatever they wanted.”
At
their home, the sons, Sethu and Suku look happy, and so does Mercy.
When asked for tips for a successful marriage, Mercy says, “It is
important for the woman to adjust to the husband. When there is a
clash, the woman should compromise first. If the husband has a talent
for something, the wife should offer support and encouragement. My
husband is my No. 1 priority. I have set aside my interests so that I
can serve him. I have been doing this, with pride, for the past 48
years.”
(The New Indian Express, Kochi and Thiruvananthapuram)