COLUMN: Spouse's Turn
Dr.
Deepak Gopinath saw Preeja Sreedharan at a felicitation function at
Palakkad following her performance at the 2010 Guangzhou Asian Games,
where she won the 10,000m gold and a silver in the 5000m.
Much
later, he came across her profile on a matrimonial website and sent a
query. Following an exchange of mails, it was found that their
horoscopes matched. On September 27, 2012, Deepak, along with his
mother and a few relatives went and met Preeja’s family. “In fact
her house in the Railway Colony is behind the Kendriya Vidyalaya
school in Olavakkode where I studied,” says Deepak.
The
marriage took place on November 11, 2012 at Palakkad. For their
honeymoon, they went to Indore where Deepak had to appear for an
exam. Thereafter, they visited a few tourist sights, did the same in
Delhi and Bangalore. After they returned to Kerala, they went for a
holiday to Munnar and Thekkady.
Today,
they are in two different locations. While Deepak is doing his
specialisation in Radiation Oncology at Kozhikode Medical College,
Preeja is training at the high-altitude centre at Munnar with
colleague Sinimol Paulose and her husband Ajith Markose.
“Every
day she runs 20 kms in the morning and 10 kms in the evening,” says
Deepak. “To develop endurance, Preeja runs in the hilly areas. Then
she does speed work on the track. The schedule changes from day to
day. Ajith is overseeing the training. Usually, Preeja runs 300 kms
every week.”
Till
a few months ago, they had been living together, so Deepak has a good
idea of Preeja’s character.
“At
home, she does not behave like a star at all,” says Deepak. “Preeja
does the cooking, sweeps the floors, washes the dishes as well as the
clothes. In fact, once, a visitor who came to our house saw Preeja
doing the housework, and assumed that she was a helper. So he said,
‘Can you call Dr. Deepak’s wife?’”
Unlike
a modern girl, she is very obedient. “If I tell Preeja not to do
something, she will not do it,” says Deepak. “She has a tendency
to follow the patriarchal system. Whatever she wants to do, she will
take my permission. If she goes to a shop and wants to buy a salwar
kameez, Preeja will call and ask for my permission. She must be the
only girl in these times to do this. And if I say no, she will not
buy it.”
Deepak
gives an example of Preeja’s down-to-earth nature. When Preeja went
to take part in this month’s Kolkata Marathon, where she won the
gold medal, Deepak organised a flight ticket for her return. But then
the couple had a tiff. So Preeja decided she would return by train
using her own money. She got a reservation, but a junior athlete who
was travelling with Preeja did not get a seat. “This girl was
running a fever and had body pains,” says Deepak. “So Preeja gave
her berth to her, and spent the entire journey near the toilet. She
put newspapers on the floor and slept there. Preeja never complained
about it, but I did get upset when I came to know.”
Deepak
is frank about Preeja’s negative traits. “Since she has
concentrated so much on her athletics career, Preeja is a bit behind
when it comes to academic qualifications, letter-writing and
communications skills,” he says. “She will have to develop these
attributes to be an effective chief officer superintendent [her
current designation in the Railways].”
But
on the athletic track, it is a different ball game. Deepak saw Preeja
run for the first time, during the 5000m and 10,000m at the senior
Nationals at Chennai in July, 2013. “Preeja had a look of
determination,” he says. “It was nice to see how bold and
confident she was.” Not surprisingly, she won gold medals in both
events. But her rivals, like Kavita Raut and L. Surya, are her
friends, and they go shopping together. “During the race, they will
discuss on how to set the pace, in order to clock good timings,”
says Deepak.
Preeja’s
immediate goal is to take part in the Asian Indoor Championships in
February at Hangzhou, China. Thereafter, she will concentrate on the
Commonwealth Games at Glasgow, Scotland in June.
Meanwhile,
when asked for tips for a successful marriage, Deepak says, “Most
young people think only about themselves. When there is some problem,
the attitude is how will I deal with it,
instead of we. When there is a fight, spouses do not know
how to compromise and resolve the issue. That is why there are so
many problems in new marriages.”
Deepak
has more tips. “Treat the parents and relatives of your wife's
family as your own. There should be mutual respect. Appreciate the
plus points of your spouse. As for the minus points, the best way is
to accept and adapt to it.”
(The New Indian Express, Kochi and Thiruvananthapuram)
Why the hell would you brag about someone mistaking your wife for a maid. Typical Indian mentality. As a doctor he should at least treat her an equal, not as a child who has to take permission from him to buy things. The bragging makes it all worse!
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