Bhumika
Shrestha, Nepal’s first transgender politician, talks about her
experiences
By
Shevlin Sebastian
Photos: Bhumika by Melton Antony; Bhumika with director Nicola Desouza
In
the two-minute film, 'I AM: The Transcender', a slim person stands
next to a light in a darkened room and says, “I am Bhumika
Shrestha. I am a transgender. I am going to be a transgender in my
next life. This is not my only identity. I am a Nepali, a Hindu, a
sister, a daughter, a politician, an actress, and a human rights
activist.”
Bhumika
looks attractive, with her doe-shaped eyes, high cheekbones and
coiffed hair, an easy smile and with a beaded necklace around her
neck. On a recent to Kochi, with the film's director Nicola Desouza,
the Kathmandu-based Bhumika says, “When I was seven years old, I
began to think and feel like a woman. I put lipstick, used make-up
and wore my mom’s sarees. But my family always supported me. They
never questioned my behaviour. They felt that since I was a child I
was behaving like this. But once I grew up, I would become all
right.”
But
Bhumika did not. At the Vidya Mandir Higher Secondary School, the
students as well as the teachers mocked her. Once the teacher said,
“You look like a girl with your long hair. You have to change.”
Like most transgenders, she went home and cried. In Class 10, Bhumika
was thrown out of school.
There
were many times when she felt suicidal. Once, she bought a bottle of
sleeping pills. But Bhumika could not go through with it. “I loved
life too much,” she says. “But I know of many transgenders who
killed themselves.”
Bhumika's
life changed, in 2003, when she joined the Blue Diamond Society,
which caters to sexual minorities. “I saw many people like me,”
she says. “I felt that I belonged. And I finally accepted my
sexuality.”
Thereafter,
Bhumika did something unusual. She joined the Nepali Congress Party
in 2008 and became the first transgender in the country to do so. She
wanted to stand for elections and got the go-ahead from the party
leaders. Unfortunately, because of a technical glitch she could not
contest. In the election form, there were only two genders: male and
female. So, she could not identify herself. Nevertheless, she has
been fighting for the rights of transgenders. And Bhumika won a
significant victory recently.
In
January, Nepal became one of the few countries in the world to add a
third gender in their passports. Apart from male and female, there is
now a category called transgender. (Incidentally, there are three
lakh transgenders in Nepal).
But
for a long time, Bhumika experienced stress when she travelled
abroad. In her passport, she is identified as Kailash Shrestha. Once
when she was going to the USA, she had to transit at Doha, the
capital of Qatar.
“They
looked at my photo and stared at me. Then they directed me to the
female line,” she says. “I told them that earlier I was a male,
now I am a woman. Since it is a Muslim country, they could not
understand the meaning of the term, transgender. So, they took me to
a separate room and physically checked me. It was only then they
understood who I am.”
Meanwhile,
last year, director Nicola saw a film called, 'The Other Nature', by
the Kathmandu-based Nani Sahra Walker. It was about the Lesbian, Gay,
Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) communities in Nepal. “There was
one shot of Bhumika, wearing a white bridal dress, and dancing at an
annual gay event,” says Nicola. “She was dancing wildly. I have
never seen anybody dance like this.”
So
Nicola contacted Nani. Then she went to Nepal in August, 2014, to see
Bhumika. “We spent time with each other,” says Nicola. “She
told me about herself and her life. Even though Bhumika has been
threatened and harassed and gone through so much, she is full of hope
and love. She has no hatred or anger against society.”
So
Nicola decided to make a short film on Bhumika. So far, it has been
shown at the Script International Film Festival, Kochi, 'Gender
Reel' in New York, the Transgender Film Festival in San Francisco,
and the British Film Institute Festival on the LGBT community called
'Flare' in London.
Meanwhile,
following the massive earthquake, on April 26, at Kathmandu, the
Mumbai-based Nicola was stranded in the town of Kirtipur, just 5 kms
away. But
later, she met up with Bhumika.
“She
is okay,” says Nicola, by e-mail. “In fact, I am living with
Bhumika and her family in a tent at Kathmandu for the past several
days. Unfortunately, Bhumika lost two of her close friends. She is
very upset about that. Both of us had gone for the cremation.”
(Published
in The New Indian Express, Kochi)
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