COLUMN:
Spouse's Turn
Jesna
Joy talks about life with the ace musician Stephen Devassy
By
Shevlin Sebastian
When
Jesna Joy's father told her that there was a proposal from Stephen
Devassy's family, she was not very keen. She had just completed her
B. Tech from Kumaraguru College of Technology, Coimbatore, and was
planning to go for higher studies abroad. “Dad found it difficult
to say no because we are close family friends,” says Jesna. “So
he told me to meet Stephen. And if I did not like him, then we could
leave it.”
At
that time, Jesna was staying with her parents in Dubai. The day
before Stephen was supposed to come and meet her, she prayed to God.
At the end, she said, “If we are supposed to be together, please
make Stephen wear a white shirt and blue jeans.”
The
next day, they met at a cafe at the Dubai Festival City. While Jesna
came with her parents, Stephen was accompanied by his elder brother
Sam. They had flown in from Chennai.
But
the moment Jesna saw Stephen, she got a shock. Stephen was wearing a
white shirt and blue jeans. “That was a turning point for me,”
says Jesna. “I realised that this was a sign from God.”
Four
days later, she gave her assent to the marriage. The wedding took
place, on November 16, 2010, at the Indian Pentecostal church at
Ottappalam. And at the wedding reception, Jesna remembers, celebrity
musician Shivamani came to the stage, raised his hands, and blessed
the couple.
One
day later, she was in Delhi because Stephen was performing in a show
in honour of the Dalai Lama. It was the first time Jesna was seeing
her husband play at a concert. “There is no doubt that Stephen has
a God-gifted talent,” she says. Jesna also met celebrities like
Mahesh Bhatt and Rani Mukherjee. “I was in awe,” she says. “I
was thinking, 'From where to where God has taken me. I had been
getting prepared for something else in life'.”
After
the show, Stephen and Jesna met the Dalai Lama. “He told Stephen
that he liked his way of playing Western fusion, and blessed him,”
says Jesna.
Today,
the couple lives in Mumbai with their five-month old son, Shawn.
Asked to list Stephen's plus points, Jesna says, “He is a very
loving person and always buys me gifts.” After his last
international trip, to the USA, last month, Stephen presented Jesna
with a bag which contained an I Phone, a perfume called One Million,
a Michael Kors watch, sandals and handbags.
As
soon as he returns home, after a long tour, he takes the family out
for dinner, “That is because I am a foodie,” says Jesna, with a
smile.
And
because Jesna loves travelling, Stephen has taken her to many places
– the USA, Singapore, Malaysia, Germany, Spain, Austria and
Switzerland. Their last trip was to Rio Di Janeiro in Brazil. “It
was a breath-taking experience to see the Chris The Redeemer statue
[located at the top of the Corcovado Mountain],” says Jesna. “We
also spent time on the beautiful Copacabana beach. The Brazilian
people are friendly and outgoing.”
Stephen
is also outgoing as a father. “He loves to spend time with Shawn,”
says Jesna. “In fact, he is sometimes amazed that he has become a
father.”
Despite
this deep affection for their child, Jesna is frank enough to say
that music is Stephen's first love. “Stephen has been in love with
music for as long as he can remember,” says Jesna. “He has been
in the profession for 18 years, while I came into his life only
four-and-a-half years ago.”
Asked
about his negative traits, Jesna says, “Like any artiste, Stephen
has mood swings. He gets upset and angry very suddenly. He can also
get excited and happy very quickly. I have got used to it. I can see
his mood changes on his face. At heart, he is a child. And I try to
give him the space he needs.”
Stephen
needs the space because he does a lot of the composing in a small
studio at his home. He works late into the night. “But he tries to
wake up by 9 a.m.,” says Jesna. “After breakfast, he spends some
time with us. Then he goes to his studio to do some work.
Thereafter,
he works out at a nearby gym. He is careful about his health. In the
evenings also, he does gym work. And he keeps a sharp watch on what
he eats.” However, for the major part of the month, Stephen is
travelling, for performances, so Jesna has learnt to manage the home
on her own.
Finally,
when asked to give tips for a successful marriage, Jesna says, “In
every marriage you have to give it some time. In the initial months,
it can be very tough, but you have to be patient. You should stay
together no matter what happens. I believe that nothing can work out
without the help of prayer. Human beings have limits. So you need to
rely on a limitless divine power. It is also good to remember that,
at all times, God is with us.”
(The
New Indian Express, Kochi and Thiruvananthapuram)
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