On
a recent visit to Kochi, social activist Ngurang Reena, from
Arunachal Pradesh, talks about the discrimination and harassment
faced by the people of the North-East in cities like Delhi and
Mumbai
Photo by Arun Angela
By
Shevlin Sebastian
It
was a winter’s day at Chandni Chowk, New Delhi in 2009. At 3 p.m.,
Ngurang Reena got onto a hand-pulled rickshaw. She was swaddled in
warm clothes. As the rickshaw moved forward, it got caught in a
traffic jam. Six men approached the rickshaw. Then with a sense of
impunity, they began to molest her. Reena felt shocked. “I was so
young I could not understand what was happening,” she says.
Despite
that, Reena retaliated. She hit one man but another grabbed her hand
and said, “What can you do?” Says Reena, “I felt completely
alone. Everybody was just watching. And nobody said anything.”
Reena
rushed back to the hostel. She felt violated. She cried. And then she
decided she would return to her village in Arunachal Pradesh. But
when she called her father, Ngurang Pinch, a former MLA, he said, “If
you leave now, you will run away for the rest of your life. You have
to understand what's happening, and then face it.”
Reena
listened to her father and stayed behind. “It was the right
decision,” she says.
Reena
looks sombre at a restaurant in Kochi on a recent afternoon. She had
been invited by the NGO Raising Our Voices Foundation to give a talk
about life in the North-East.
A
former Assistant Professor of Political Science and International
Relations at Delhi University, she says, “I don't think there is a
single girl from the North-East who has not had a bad experience in
Delhi. Whenever one of us walks down a street in the evening,
somebody or the other will come up and grab our breasts or ass.”
And
the experiences at the police station are morale-shattering. “The
first question is usually, ‘Why were you walking alone?’ followed
by ‘What were you wearing?’” says Reena. “So, it all comes
down to moral policing. There is no agency for us to take the
complaint forward.”
There
is a stereotyping of the girls from the North-East that has remained
consistent over the years. “Because we choose to dress differently
or have coloured hair, there is a perception that we are loose
characters who sleep around with everybody,” she says. “When we
go to social gatherings or a party men just pounce on us. We face
this often.”
The
discrimination continues in other areas. When the girls look for
apartments to rent, the landlord will look at them and say, “Are
you sure you will be able to pay the rent? I hope you will not
indulge in drinking, drug-taking, sexual activities, or
prostitution.”
In
Kochi, Reena had a different experience. While in a cab, the driver
got curious on seeing her. “He was so excited to learn that I am
from Arunachal,” says Reena. “He asked me whether Arunachal was
part of China. And I had to tell him, it was part of India.”
This
confusion continues when Reena goes abroad. She went to Germany and
every day people asked her whether she was Chinese or Japanese. They
refused to believe her when she said she is from India. “In fact,
they told me I was lying,” says Reena.
So,
she is in a perennial state of limbo; of not belonging anywhere. And
back in Arunachal Pradesh, where she should feel at home, she has
stirred a hornet's nest by launching a campaign against polygamy and
other social evils with her sister Meena through their NGO The
Ngurang Learning Institute. “People think that women are free in
Arunachal,” says Reena. “But that is not the case. Most of the
time, in our Nyishi tribe, they are the second or third wives of a
man and have no status whatsoever.”
Of
course, it is not legal. But the 200 tribes in the state have
different traditions. “And in the case of polygamy, the state does
not interfere, because it is a ‘tribal custom’,” says Reena.
But
some men are angry at her activism. One man, whose wife is a student
at the institute, came armed with a dao (the local machete) and told
Meena, “Stop teaching my wife. She is 40 years old. Is this the
time to study? She is better where she belongs, in the kitchen.”
But
thanks to the affirmative nature of the Indian Constitution, and her
father’s support Reena was able to escape this fate. She got a good
education and eventually began working in Miranda House, one of New
Delhi’s elite colleges. “You have to understand from where I come
from,” says Reena, who is at present a PhD research scholar in the
School of International Studies at Jawaharlal Nehru University, New
Delhi. “My mother never went to school, and my father failed in
Class 10. I am one of the first from our family to enjoy a higher
education.”
And
despite the many upheavals in her life, including the murder of her
father in 2017, for which she battled and failed to get a CBI probe,
Reena, says, “I continue to move forward. Hard knocks only make you
stronger.”
(The
New Indian Express, Kochi, Thiruvananthapuram and Kozhikode)