Pooja
Stanslas speaks about why she has settled in Kochi after leaving her
home country a few years ago
By
Shevlin Sebastian
At
7.30 p.m. on a recent Wednesday, Pooja Stanslas, wearing a red
T-shirt and grey leggings, walked up the first-floor steps of the
Kerala State Beverages Corporation outlet at Kalamassery. Around one
hundred men looked at her, some with their mouths open, a few with
widened eyes, and others with smirks. Not surprisingly, she was the
only woman present. Despite her heart beating fast, Pooja coolly
bought a bottle of vodka and wine. “I never felt so stared at in my
life,” she says.
Pooja
is a second-generation Malaysian who has relocated to Kochi a few
months ago.
“It
is not easy to be a single woman in Kochi,” she says. “The city
is socially conservative. The men are not used to seeing women speak
confidently or dressed in a particular way. It remains a patriarchal
society. The Malayali women are pushed hard by society to play a
muted role. My women friends tell me, ‘Pooja don’t raise your
voice. Always remain understated. Otherwise, you will not be able to
get your work done’.”
Nevertheless,
she says, the people, for the most part, have been very helpful. Once
when she stepped out of a gym at Kalamassery, it was raining heavily.
Three members, who were standing nearby, went out in the rain and got
Pooja an auto-rickshaw. “Once they come to know that I am a
foreigner, they were very accommodating,” says Pooja.
She
came to Kochi because she wanted a break from her life in Malaysia.
She says that as an Indian-origin Malaysian, she remains a
second-class citizen.
In
the 1970s, the Malaysian government came up with the term,
‘Bumiputra’. “It literally means sons of the soil,” says
Pooja. “They comprise the Malays as well as the aboriginals.
Because I am not a Bumiputra I am heavily discriminated against, in
terms of access to education, jobs and business. Basically, you have
to fend for yourself. I am still considered a ‘pendatang’ (a
Malay word meaning immigrant) despite the fact that my grandparents
were naturalised Malaysian citizens and my parents and I were born in
Malaysia and speak Malay like a native. Heck, I even have a first
class BA Hons. in Malay studies!”
When
Pooja was growing up in the 1980s and 1990s, there were only five
public universities and a complete absence of private universities.
And for the minorities, there was a quota system. The Indians got 10
per cent, the Chinese formed 20 per cent, the Malays 60 per cent
while the remaining 10 per cent belonged to the minorities like the
Sri Lankans and the Eurasians. “The Indians, no matter how well
they did in the entrance exams, could only get admitted in the
university based on the quota,” she says.
In
public sector jobs, there was a similar discrimination. “No matter
how good you are, the top person will always be a Malay,” she says.
“He or she may not have a good education or qualification, but
because they belong to the right race and religion -- Islam -- they
get the jobs.”
In
the original Constitution, Islam was made the official religion.
“When we were growing up, there was no talk of Malays, Muslims and
non-Muslims,” says Pooja. “That was because a liberal form of
Islam was practised. We would go to each other’s house. But later a
stricter form of Islam began to be practised. The Malays began to
look at themselves as Muslims first and Malaysians second. And they
would say, ‘Look you are Hindu, Buddhist or Christian. We are
different from you’.”
Then
the Sharia law which governs personal behaviour and family matters of
Muslims was introduced. “So you have a parallel judiciary,” says
Pooja. “One which governs the Muslims and another which governs
non-Muslims. It means that if you marry a Muslim you will have to
convert and change your name. In the end, you will lose your
identity. But when a Hindu marries a Christian, there is no
compulsion to change.”
And
there are other benefits for the Malays. When they buy a flat or
property from a developer, they get an automatic seven per cent
discount. “And in every building, there has to be a small mosque,”
says Pooja.
People
were not happy. Large numbers of Indians and Chinese, of the educated
middle class, migrated to Australia and Britain. And Pooja, who is an
online journalist and an academic copy editor, also followed suit. “I
was fed up of the whole situation and decided to leave,” she says.
“I did not see any hope or future in Malaysia.” She went to
Colombo and spent three years there before moving to Kochi.
At
Kochi, thanks to her grandparents having safely preserved their
certificate attesting that they were Indians, Pooja has secured a
Person of Indian Origin Card. She has now settled in Kalamassery
where she has just bought a villa. And she is learning to adjust to
the lower professionalism, as compared to Kuala Lumpur. “People
like electricians and plumbers take a far longer time to repair
things than back home,” she says. “And then, the work is not done
perfectly.”
And
she could not escape some bad experiences. Pooja paid a man, posing
as a friend, Rs 2.35 lakh for doing interior decoration at her home.
“Unfortunately, he has done sub-standard work, will not produce the
receipts or return the money,” she says. “So I have filed a case
in the Consumer Redressal Cell.”
Asked
about the future, she says, “For now I am in Kochi and liking it. I
feel as if I have returned to my roots. But who knows what will
happen as I move forward? Life is so unpredictable.”
(The
New Indian Express, Kochi, Thiruvananthapuram and Kozhikode)