COLUMN: Spouse's Turn
Meena
Vari talks about life with the artist Vivek Vilasini
Photos: Vivek and Meena Vilasini; 'The Last Supper at Gaza'
By
Shevlin Sebastian
When
Meena Vari saw Vivek Vilasini for the first time, a smile appeared on
her face. Vivek was carrying a bag of tissue paper, so that he could
mop his face because of the summer heat. This
was at the office of the Attakallari Centre for Movement Arts in
Kochi, where Meena worked as an administrator.
Thereafter,
because of the public ban on smoking, the Tripunithara-based Vivek
would often drop into the office, and have a smoke. The director,
Jayachandran Palazhy, had gone to London for a few months. As a
result, Vivek and Meena started chatting. Soon, they became friends.
Then they realised that they liked each other and had a mutual
interest in art.
Meanwhile,
time was running out for both. Meena had turned 30, while Vivek was
35. Meena's Delhi-based parents had pressured her to get married
earlier, but she had resisted. She wanted to marry somebody she
liked. But when she suggested Vivek's name her parents were initially
opposed. “While I am a Christian, Vivek is a Hindu,” she says.
Eventually, both families came around.
The
marriage took place on February 11, 2000, at a register's office in
Edapally, Kochi. “We did not have any money to have a reception,”
says Meena. Since Meena had to go to Bangalore and Chennai for
official work, Vivek tagged along. “So, that was our honeymoon,”
says Meena. “But later, we were able to travel all over the world.”
In
fact, the couple has just returned from a fortnight’s trip to
Britain. Meena had won a fellowship on
the Clore Leadership Programme for one year, and had gone to London
to do research.
While
there, for a while, they lived in a caravan in Walberswick, near the
River Blyth, in Suffolk. “We went with friends, who had been going
there for 15 years,” says Meena. In the caravan, there were two
bedrooms and a drawing room, but the toilet facilities are outside.
In their spare time, they saw off-beat films and plays. “Both of us
had a nice time,” she says.
Asked
about the plus points of Vivek's character, Meena says that it is his
curiosity which is the highlight. “He is interested in everything –
butterflies, clouds, cars, dogs and birds,” says Meena. “I keep
learning all the time from him. And since I am working in a college,
it becomes very useful for me.”
Meena
is the Dean of Contemporary Art and
Curatorial Practice at the Srishti
School of Art, Design and Technology in Bangalore. And it was at this
college that Vivek made his most famous piece of art: 'The Last
Supper of Gaza'.
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first-year girls wore burqas and face veils, and stood behind a long
narrow table with a white tablecloth. On the table there were steel
plates which had loaves of bread and red pomegranates. The background
was painted in charcoal black.
On
the day it was displayed in Madrid, on February 10, 2009, Israel
attacked Gaza. Associated Press photographer Paul White took a
picture, showing two Spanish women intently studying Vivek’s
photograph, and sent it through the wires of the international
agency. More than 100 newspapers worldwide published the photo.
Eventually, it was put up for auction at Christie’s, London. A
Palestinian, from Dubai, bought it for Rs 20 lakh.
“Yes,
that was one of the happiest days of my life,” says Meena. “Vivek
had always been regarded in high esteem by his colleagues and
friends. But to get worldwide recognition was a big event.”
As
a result, many people ask for feedback on the works that they have
made. “Vivek is genuine and honest in his opinions,” says
Meena. “Sometimes, I am taken aback by his frankness. But he tells
me, 'That is the truth'. The good thing is that I have never seen
anybody get irritated by his feedback.”
But
Meena gets irritated sometimes. That is because Vivek has a tendency
to leave his clothes all over the place in the bedroom. And she has
to pick it up and clean the place, after she returns from college.
“Nevertheless, I am blindly in love with him,” she says. “We
do not have children, so we fill each other to cover the gap.”
As an
artist, he also has his quirks. One day, Vivek told Meena that they
would be going to the Ettumanoor temple. “I got excited,” she
says. “But when we reached the entrance, he stopped and stared at
the murals. He had actually come to see that. We returned without
going inside. Both of us don't go to temples or churches, but we
believe in an Universal Energy.”
Finally,
when asked for tips about marriage, Meena says, “You cannot change
the other person. He is what he is. So you must try to understand
him. If the interests are the same, it helps to make a successful
marriage. If I was not into art, I would not have been able to
understand and appreciate Vivek.”
(The New Indian Express, Kochi and Thiruvananthapuram)
Attakkalari Centre for Movement Arts is in Bangalore, not Kochi.
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